I’m writing this blog post not because I believe newborns can or should be on a schedule, but because I know this is a question frequently asked by new parents. First, let’s define two terms – newborn and schedule. Newborns are babies aged birth–16 weeks, counting from their due date. If you give birth 4 weeks early, your baby remains in the “newborn” stage until they are 20 weeks of age chronologically. Schedule, when used in relation to infant and toddler sleep, refers simply to naps and bedtime happening at more or less the same times each day, with an emphasis on sleep lengths for nap and overnight sleep lasting for more or less the same durations each day.
For many reasons, newborns are not biologically capable of having a “schedule” in the traditional sense of the word. While many resources online encourage the scheduling of newborns, it is generally unwise to try to mandate or even expect a super predictable pattern in newborn sleep. Newborns do not have regular outputs of the hormone (melatonin) that regulates their sleep patterns. Therefore, you may find them physically incapable of sleeping at some times, while you may then also find it next to impossible to wake them at other times. While there are some easy going newborns who adapt well to sleeping at the same times each day, most new babies are not capable of having wholly predictable sleep patterns. Also, know that while your newborn can’t yet be on a schedule, there is a tremendous amount you can do to encourage lengthy periods of sleep overnight and good sleep habits during the day.
For those sweet mothers who are like me (type A, anyone?), I will not leave you without something to work with when it comes to your newborn’s daytime sleep “schedule.” First, try to remember that your goal should be a pattern or cycle, and not a schedule. A good tip is to try to start your day at the same time each day. If you have to get out of bed each morning at 7 am to get an older child to school, get your newborn up as well, expose them to sunlight, and give them a good feeding while trying very hard to keep them alert and awake throughout the whole feed. Then, watch them closely to see when they may be starting to feel sleepy. This can happen within 30 minutes or 90 minutes, depending on the baby, their age, and whatever their melatonin output from their brain happens to be doing on that particular day (note: their varying wake time lengths from day to day is what makes it impossible to schedule them – they may want or need to be awake for different lengths throughout the day and it can vary widely from day to day and change with each week they grow older). If this is your first baby and you can sleep in, fantastic! But, still aim to get up and start your baby’s day within 30 minutes of the same time each morning (whether that’s 7 am or 10 am). Once baby shows a tired sign, put them down for a nap. Their nap may last 25 minutes, or up to two hours (wake them at the 2 hour mark, and also note the varying length in nap, which is NORMAL, is another reason it’s impossible to “schedule” a newborn), and then restart the “eat, wake, sleep” cycle. Continue this pattern throughout the day and aim for “bedtime” to be about 12 hours after you got them up to start the day. Finally, for the 12 hour “overnight” period, aim to keep lights low and also do not have any wake time after feedings – simply feed in as little light as possible, then put baby down again right away, and repeat until your morning start time. Some days you may have more naps than others, and some days you may have some long naps and some short naps, and that’s all normal and okay.
When putting your newborn on a schedule remember…
- Aim for a “pattern” or “cycle” – not an actual “schedule.”
- Try to start your day at the same time.
- Put baby down for a nap when they show their first tired sign.
- Keep lights low at bedtime and during night feedings.
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Here’s to great sleep and newborn cuddles!!