Many times parents will find themselves trying to decide which two children to pair together when sharing rooms. There are a few factors to consider which may not be obvious at first. For our purposes, let’s say we have three children: one aged 5-months-old (a girl still taking a night feeding but not usually waking otherwise), a 3-year-old girl, and a 7-year-old boy. Let’s also say Mom and Dad need to split those three kiddos amongst two bedrooms.
At first glance it would make the most sense to pair the two youngest children. After all, they’re both girls and the oldest is getting to the age where he likes to have some privacy. However, if I were in charge of pairing these kiddos, my first choice would be to pair the baby and the 7-year-old, and my second choice would be to pair the 3 and 7-year-old together and allow the baby to have her own room.
Where to Start
The first thing you need to identify is which of your kids is the finickiest sleeper. Do you find your baby is extremely sensitive to other people? My oldest child seemed to wake at the drop of a feather when she was a baby. I always allowed her to sleep independently no matter what because pairing her with another human being during night sleep would definitely equal more night wakings.
Who’s the Tough Sleeper?
Or, more likely, is your 3-year-old incredibly tough to get back to sleep if anything ever wakes him in the middle of the night? My son is nearly four and he is just getting to the point where he is obedient enough to stay in his bed all night.
If he gets woken up by something in the middle of the night I have a 50/50 chance that he’ll go back to sleep. Worse, if he won’t sleep, he’s at age where I still cannot always reason with him which might result in a houseful of people awake in the middle of the night because the 3-year-old is yelling or playing instead of sleeping.
I would never, ever pair him with a baby for fear he would distract the baby and thus lose out on sleep himself. The oldest child, however, may be the one who can cope the best with the errant cries of a 5-month-old baby.
Utilizing the Maturity of Older Children
Not only are older children usually better at putting themselves to sleep after a nocturnal sleep disruption, but they have also reached the age where they finally value their sleep. They want to go back to sleep, and if they can’t sleep they’re better at entertaining themselves instead of relying on Mom or Dad to get them through those nighttime hours.
Each family is different and will have their own set of personalities so I encourage you to think outside of the box and be creative about your room sharing pairs.
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The arrival of a baby is an explosion of happiness for everyone, but for parents, it is also a time for changes at home both in the form of furniture and emotions. It is so important to learn how to organize the spaces so that you and your baby can proceed hand in hand. Although we can not promise the actual silence, we can make sure that your home will become an ideal space to enjoy the very special moments. Thanks for sharing this great tips which are really helpful.